Thursday, September 25, 2008

the other day, harry came up to me and asked me if it was scary to ride in an airplane. i thought it was a strange question, after all, we aren't going in any airplanes any time soon. i had quickly answered him "no" and then i asked why. did he think it was scary riding in an airplane.

he told me he thought it would be scary, since he can't ever remember it. i told him that he had done it before, and had slept most of the way. i told him it was like driving a car, only sometimes a little bumpier.

he chewed on that for a while. he came back later and told me that he still thinks it would be scary to be on an airplane. not because it goes up high, or that it goes fast, but because he hasn't done it before. he wouldn't know what to do, or where to go.

i had to agree with him.

right now i'm terrified. as much as i want the world to see me as a calm and collected person slash mom, i'm not.

harry has been having extreme behavior difficulties in his classroom. enough that we considered moving him to another class. we decided not to move him because he was resisting it. we didn't think a move would improve the situation if was going to hate it. his behavior in the last couple of weeks has apparently gone from really bad, to much much worse. and i don't know what to do.

just like that airplane ride where i know everything will likely be okay, but right now i can't imagine how it can be. i don't know if there is any magic fix for these problems. that is so much more scary when it's your own kid.

10 comments:

Laurel said...

I feel for you guys. I don't know personally what you're going through, but I had a sibling who experienced that. I saw what it did to him, and the worry it caused my parents. I hope you guys find a solution soon!

Amy said...

what a great analogy. We are having some issues with our Kindergartener son. Not sure if it is just his age/emotional level or something else. Here's hoping we both can figure it out soon ((hugs))

Kelsey-boo said...

maybe it's the teacher. Garret was having problems too, you should ask my mom.

One Crazy Family said...

I do not know what to tell you. Garret had a lot of problems last year and we worked really hard at trying to work through them. The teacher was less than helpful and the poor kid suffered through not the best year. So far, I think he is doing okay this year. All you can do is pray and keep talking with him listening to him and give him as much love and support that you can. He is a good kid, smart and loving. Call me if you need to talk.

Tim and Vicky Porter said...

You can call me anytime...Sky had issues starting in pre-school. It was a long hard ride but I may have some insight and suggestions for you. Amber has my number if you need it. :)

Matt, Amber, and Berlyn said...

It is tough I remember with Sky! Hang in there

Trisha said...

oh oh oh. i think he's brilliant. and that's probably hard for him, and hard for his parents. i'm sorry meemer. i just was saying, in passing, that something i've done recently (jumping off a fence and ripping my knee apart) was the stupidest thing i've done in my life. he looked at me skeptically and said "kidnapping cats?" well, it made me smile and think of you.

i'm so sorry about this terrible time for you guys. i'm sure you're right though, it will all be fine, but what a frightening ride it is sometimes. i love you

Megan said...

Ah man. I'm sorry he has to go through this. I hope you can find a solution that works for everyone. Big hugs.

Anonymous said...

Hi Meemer attention deficate does run in the family you might want to look into that. My grandson has it and I have it a little but was able to control it. I never did the acting up part but I have a hard time staying on task. Kim my daughter put Traven on meds and they helped a lot until he could learn to control it. When he is bad he has to go back on them for a while to get it until control.
I am grandmaJ's cousin.

The black sheep said...

have him tested for add, it so common now. It maybe that simple or a cruddy teacher, but have him tested for add first. Then go from there.